Stop Being “Celibate,” Stop Apologizing

This presumption is embedded deeply in Catholic cultural consciousness, the presumption that there's something un-Catholic about being gay.

It was one of those “we’re both gay, how about a coffee?” kind of meetings. After a while I told her, “Yeah, it was fun hooking up and stuff… But I’m glad it’s in the past.”

She looked at me seriously, giving the sort of look that goes right into you but without feeling invasive. She said, “You don’t need to apologize for your past. You don’t need to jus…